On the way home earlier this week, I was listening to Terry Gross interviewing author Brian Castner on “Fresh Air” playing on NPR. Mr. Castner has written a book about his experiences disabling roadside IEDs in Iraq, The Long Walk, A Story of War and the Life that Follows.
In the interview he likened his war experiences to his shadow. As hard as you stare or as much as you try to ignore, your shadow doesn’t go away. Grief is like a shadow – it follows you everywhere and everyone has one. You can’t “shake” grief, it will always be there. The key is acknowledging grief and finding healthy, productive ways to address it.