![Ball Toss activity kicked off Father’s Day H.U.G.S. last Saturday at Kate’s Club](https://cdn.prod.website-files.com/640a348f5ad8a6da44f21451/64343911a24e0d6a960af341_ball_fathershugs.jpeg)
Kaylan’s dad loved ice cream. His favorite basketball player was Michael Jordan, and he was a great friend to all. Immediately after sharing some of the things she’d written about her dad, the 12-year-old drew and filled in a pink heart to put the final touches on the Family Shield she’d made to remember her father who died four years ago. This simple, yet difficult activity was a way for Kate’s Club families to remember the father who died as part of the annual Father’s Day H.U.G.S. (Healing, Understanding, Giving, Support) activity this past Saturday. This activity at Kate's Club, a center for grieving children, was a way to practice how to grieve the loss of a parent. “Sometimes you cry just to get it all out,” Kaylan told her table after sharing about her dad. Throughout the morning, there were more smiles than tears and much sharing. “Not one of them didn’t want to say his name,” long-time Atlanta volunteer, Adam Klein, said of his table. “They all shared.” The Family Shield exercise was the second of the morning, following the Ball Toss exercise intended to break the ice by putting members of each table in a position to answer questions about their dad or their grief process. This exercise worked like a game of hot potato, where the group stood in a circle and passed the red, white, blue, and yellow beach balls until the music stopped. When it did, the person holding the ball had the choice to answer the question written on the ball being touched by their thumbs. This activity helped Kate's Club members think about which is the best advice for an individual trying to overcome grief.
"How did your dad die?"
"What is your best memory of your dad?"
"What do you do when you feel sad?"
These were just a few of the questions being answered by the 80 people in attendance when the music stopped.
“If grief was a color, it would be black to me,” one girl answered.
“Is it ok to feel angry?” another child read out loud.
“Yes, it’s ok to feel angry!” she answered. “Sometimes you have to let it out.”
Mary Howell, Kate’s Club Board Chair, and Buddy said her group was great about talking about their dad.
“Everyone shared a memory, which is really good,” she said.
There were some tears, which Program Manager Debra Brook said is a sign that the free grief resources and programs at Kate’s Club are working.
“Success to me is when a family is in crisis and still comes,” she said, referencing one mom, who was having an understandably difficult time during the exercises. “But she came, and she made the choice to stay.”
Keisha Edwards, a Kate’s Club mom and Board Member said bringing her son Cole, four years after his father’s death, is the best thing to do to remember his dad.
“As time passes, it’s nice to be able to remember without falling apart,” she said.
![Keisha Edwards and her son, Cole, work on the Kate's Club Family Shield activity](https://cdn.prod.website-files.com/640a348f5ad8a6da44f21451/64343911a24e0db7510af342_keisha_fathershugs.jpeg)
Would you like to share your story? Please get in touch with Kate's Club! KC has free grief support with grief resources, grief counseling resources, grief training, and volunteer work in Atlanta and surrounding places in Georgia. Kate's Club is a growing nonprofit in Atlanta with grief specialists for kids and young adults going through bereavement. Our goal is to make a world where it is okay to grieve.